Japanase dating customs
I used to think that I was well-versed with the Japanese culture. Since he did that often, a lot of people thought they were dating. I was super excited that I found a guy who loved museums as much as I did, so I asked if he wanted to join me to see some stuff. Hugging does not happen between a guy and a girl who are just friends I generally never hugged my friends in North America because they loved to hug me too often and I found it awkward. He used pretty severe words, and we didn’t go into a lot of detail about this subject.
However, after being friends with several Japanese people in two months, I can certainly say that I am honestly more North American, especially when it comes to dating. Sounds extremely absurd to my North American ears, but . At first he was all like yes and even settled on a date. Now, since I miss my North Americans a ton, I’m tempted to hug any friend I see, especially a fellow North American. However, I think it’s safer just to keep your lips to yourself in their view? The dating pattern is NOT like the one in North America In North America, you do test dates, like you can go out with a guy for a few dates over dinner, movies, or some other activity, and see how things go.
The Japanese ritual of "san-san-kudo", the three by three exchange is rich with meaning.
It is performed by the bride and groom and both sets of parents; each person takes 3 sips of sake from each of 3 cups.
Another friend told me that while he was on exchange in Japan, he was talking to this really pretty girl a lot and no other guy would do that. I can’t imagine how many “dates” I’ve gone on then, and I made a HUGE faux pas then. You don’t make out with people at a club A Japanese guy friend was saying how if a girl or guy made out with a stranger at a club, he or she would be hated by the Japanese crowd.
Before we start talking about “Dating in Japan” one thing should be crystal clear: If you’ve ever been to Japan you might have noticed that there’s a tremendous number of (often not so handsome) foreign guys walking hand-in-hand with Japanese women.
The first 3 represent three couples, the bride and groom, and their parents. Another highlight of this ceremony is a rosary with 21 beads that represent the couple, their families and the Buddha all joined on one string to symbolize the union of the families.
The second 3 represent three human flaws: hatred, passion, and ignorance. Part of the ceremony involves honoring the parents with offers of flowers, a toast, or a letter expressing their love and gratitude.
Because according to a few of my Japanese friends, hugging generally occurs between lovers. According to my Japanese guy friend, the ironic part is that a lot of Japanese guys have trouble even talking to the opposite sex.
Be prepared to be disabused, for whatever images you have conjured in your mind about finding love in Japan are certain to be skewed and not realistic, that is unless you’ve lived in the country before and you know the score.